Kokology Ep.4: Your birthday is the one day a year when you’re justified in expecting things to be just a little nicer than usual. Well wishes and congratulations, presents and cards, maybe even a party or romantic dinner for two.

It’s your birthday today, and when you check your mailbox you see you’ve gotten a card from someone you would have never suspected. Who is the sender? You have also received a number of gifts from family and friends. Of that group, who sent you the biggest package? (Give the names of people in your life when answering this quiz.)

My Answers: Actually, I thought of two friends. But just to explain my side, the friend I thought in the first question is someone whom I haven’t talked with for a long time already. The friend I thought in the second question is someone who is really generous, but I make sure that I do not take advantage of him. 

Key to “On Your Birthday…”

The responses you gave signify your true feelings about people in your life, feelings you might not even be aware of yourself.

The person who undexpectedly sent you a card is actually someone you would like to care more about you or give you more attention. In short, the person you named as the sender is someone you worship from afar. Is it someone you barely know, someone you’ve been hesitant to approach, or just a friend you haven’t heard from in a while? Maybe it’s time you made the first move toward bridging the gap.

On the surface, you might associate the biggest package you received with good feelings about the sender. But from a psychological perspective, the person you named as the sender is actually someone whose affections you take for granted. This doesn’t necessarily signify a lack of respect, but you definitely feel confident of their feelings for you. Be careful not to get overconfident. What feels like security to you may look like plain selfishness to others.